Taking care of YOU.
Note: In light of recent events, I would like to acknowledge the people who have lost their lives to COVID-19. May they rest in peace. I would also like to thank the people who are risking their lives for us everyday. And to my people who are struggling to take care of themselves during this time, I hope this helps.
Taking care of YOU. How does this even look like? How do people normally take care of themselves? I always tell people to take care of themselves, but I never know how they do it. What does your self care look like?
During a time like this, it’s easy to fall deep into something you can’t seem to get out of. You are with your thoughts 24/7 and the distractions around you aren’t too healthy. I have struggled these past few weeks, although I considered myself a homebody. Before this, I loved being at home, but I still went out and lived life. But why is this so different for most of us? Because we no longer have our “normal” life routine. We are now forgetting what day it is or we just feel like everyday is a Sunday. For me, I’m constantly stuck in my thoughts. However, just this past week, I’ve tried my best to begin a new routine. To start adjusting. To start living, yes to start living at home.
These are the things that have helped me thus far. Things keeping me sane and content. It may or may not work for you, but I encourage you to find your routine, your new rhythm. Do not be afraid to go outside of the box (please, do not go outside of your house to visit multiple people). Do not be afraid to use this time to REST. Oh- I hope you know what it means to rest because sometimes I forget. Yes, these are difficult times, but I am a huge believer in, we’ll make it.
What has worked for me 🙂
FaceTime or calling my friends/family
This is so important to me. Although I’m quiet, I still need to talk to people. My family and friends are my rock. Just seeing their faces or hearing their voices brings me peace. They keep me grounded and focused. I also love making people laugh, so I need them to hear my corny jokes.
I never had time to cook before this. I always cooked during the weekends, but now I’m like yeah the refrigerator is my best friend.
I love eating, and I’m obsessed with watching cooking videos, which then inspires me to cook a delicious meal. Cooking is so therapeutic and rewarding.
I have been creating playlists during this time. I love finding new artists to listen to. I’ve also been updating my wedding playlist. I have to be ready! Music can also be therapeutic. Sometimes, it can take you to a different realm or get you active. For me, it’s either RnB or Afrobeat.
I love searching for new things to listen to, something that can inspire me. I’m a reader, so I had to get new books to read/listen to. For my fellow readers, this is your time to catch up on the books you’ve bought. OR you can read articles online. For my non-readers, you can still read or listen to a podcast that suits your taste. Special shout out to Empty Opinions! Great podcast to listen to for my pop culture people. You can listen to Empty Opinions through this link:
Binging tv shows/watching Marvel Movies
This helped for a little while, but I got bored real quick. I’ve searched for so many shows to binge, but I could not find the right one. I’m still searching so if you have any recommendations, let me know! I have been watching marvel movies and African wedding videos. Please do not judge me.
I do not exercise. If you have a problem, abeg fight me. I love yoga though. It’s relaxing. I’m starting to wake up early mornings before I start work and do some yoga/meditation. If you’re like me and you hate exercising, join the yoga squad. Don’t be shy. For those who love to exercise, please follow my little brother’s fitness page on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/motivationmadefitness/
I have so many art supplies in my room (I took art during my last semester of college and spent a lot of money on supplies). I use my sketchbook from time to time to draw patterns. I LOVE creating new patterns. I’m not saying paint Mona Lisa. No, I’m saying if you have the supplies, sketch ANYTHING. If you have paint, do some abstract art. Let your mind wander.
For my fellow writers or people who love to journal. Keep writing. I’ve been writing letters because why not. Am I gonna send out these letters? No. For my fellow over-thinkers, write. Write. Write.
Makeup/Skin Care Routine
I SUCK at doing my makeup, but it’s my time to SHINE. I really want to practice doing my makeup so that I can look good. However, I have been loving the way my skin is looking lately. I’ve been taking care of my face and it’s rewarding.
30 day challenges
These are great for times like this. You can find these challenges online or on Pinterest. I look forward to doing them. (This one is not a great example but please explore Pinterest!)
Confessing your feelings to your crush
It’s time to shoot your shot. Tell your crush how you feel (ONLY IF THEY ARE ALSO SINGLE). When you shoot your shot, come up with the next game plan. If they’re not interested, please leave them alone and move on. Abeg, do not look desperate.
While we’re talking about crushes, FaceTime dates
These are so cute! I love that people are dressing up and being serious about this. If you were constantly going on dates before this, my friend, FaceTime dates are for you. Something to look forward to!
Learn a new skill.
I HATE to say it, I really do, but for those who just want to feel productive, you can do this. There’s nothing wrong with practicing a skill you already have or learning a new one. Do not come for me for saying this. I said those who want to feel productive.
And finally- REST.
This is so important for me. My sleeping schedule is all over the place and I just want a day where I can be lazy. Do not forget to rest.
Please stay at home unless you need to go grocery shopping or go to the pharmacy. Find your own routine, and share it with me via Instagram. If you need someone to chat with, I got you. Overall, take care of YOU.
Thank you for reading! 🙂
Written by Diaka Thiam