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“We’re not forcing you, but he’s the one for you.”-a supporter of arranged marriage.

When I was younger, I had this vision- of being a successful, educated African woman. I had my entire life figured out. Finish school, get the job, and the husband. I talk about marriage a lot on here because my life is no longer the sunshine and rainbows after each rain storm. It is now centered around marriage. It is impossible for me to run away from. At the age of 19, I had the option of not making marriage the center of my life, because I was in school.… Read more “We’re not forcing you, but he’s the one for you.”-a supporter of arranged marriage.

A Letter to Mama Diakha

Dear grandmother, A part of me knows that if you were still alive, you would teach me how to be an African woman. Not one who followed all traditions and cultural rules, but one who can defy all of it without hesitation. I talk about being an African woman in America. Mama Diakha, I want to know what it’s like being an African woman in Africa. It’s easy to travel back to Senegal, live like an African woman, but it’s not the same. It’s easy to read all the books… Read more A Letter to Mama Diakha

“Girl, why you keep learning the same lessons?”

Hello! I hope you are doing well! In this blog post, I am sharing some of the things I learned this year. Everything I learned is from my own experience. Enjoy 🙂 The unknown is uncomfortable, unsettling, but it is okay. I don’t know how many times I am going to be learning this, but I need to stop rushing my life. Stop thinking that I need to have everything figured out by this age. I am only 23. I only have a few things figured out. It took me… Read more “Girl, why you keep learning the same lessons?”

First born African Daughters are my Heroes.

Taking the bus to my mother’s hair braiding salon every Saturday and Sunday was a wonderful experience. Or on some weekends, when he was not working, my father would drop my mom and I off. Helping my mother at home and in the salon was satisfying. Always near her side at the age of twelve. As the first born and only daughter, my parents gave me all their attention. Positive and negative. However, I would say mainly negative. In the home, you would think I was the only child. My… Read more First born African Daughters are my Heroes.

The Six Suitors (#5)

Hi! We are back again with our newest series. I hope you are all well. Last time we met Mohamed, this post will focus on Khalil! Who’s your favorite suitor so far? Enjoy! When Khalil married Fanta, Oumy was upset. He knew the consequences of marrying a second wife, but he took the risk anyway. He met Fanta at Oumy’s surprise graduation party that her family threw for her. At first, he was not invited, but Oumy’s youngest sister invited him the day of. His family in-law did not approve… Read more The Six Suitors (#5)

Black Lives Matter EVERYDAY.

Have you ever stood up in front of your class to present, and you can feel your heart sink, all eyes on you? Your hands clammy, a heavy lump that you can’t seem to swallow in your throat? You feel your legs shaking and you try to move it, just to shake off the feeling? You know this feeling. It’s too common. This is how I have been feeling lately while taking in all of the information in the media. Promising myself to take breaks, but wanting to be updated… Read more Black Lives Matter EVERYDAY.

Taking care of YOU.

Note: In light of recent events, I would like to acknowledge the people who have lost their lives to COVID-19. May they rest in peace. I would also like to thank the people who are risking their lives for us everyday. And to my people who are struggling to take care of themselves during this time, I hope this helps. Taking care of YOU. How does this even look like? How do people normally take care of themselves? I always tell people to take care of themselves, but I never… Read more Taking care of YOU.

“Meet my Suitors?”

I have a new fear, and it’s something I can get over. However, I think it will take time. I recently had a conversation with my mom and cousin about marriage. Let’s pause right here: I HAD A CONVERSATION ABOUT MARRIAGE WITH MY MOM. MY OVERPROTECTIVE MOM. My “I don’t want to see you around boys” mom. My “you can’t have boys as friends” mom. Yeah, I was honestly shocked by this conversation. But, the conversation took a turn, twist, jump, and spin that I did not like. On this… Read more “Meet my Suitors?”